When we feel excited about something, what holds us back from sharing that? When we feel happy about something, what holds us back from allowing others to see our joy? When we are angry, what makes it so that we don’t share?
Far too often we feel things and don’t allow others to see it. I believe that this holds us back from truly connecting to our message, and more importantly, truly connecting to other people.
We tend to say what we THINK, why not what we FEEL?
Fear!
Fear of what others will think of us. Fear of judgment. Fear of looking weak.
Of course we are afraid to say what we feel. We’ve been conditioned that we need to hold back, to protect our emotions, to “just let it go”. But what does this get us?
Strained relationships?
Mediocre results?
Disconnected teams?
I suggest that we start sharing. Tell people when you are
feeling happy. Tell them when you are feeling sad. Tell them when you are frustrated. Tell them when you are excited about something.
Be respectful – but be true! True to yourself, and ultimately true to them.
So throw away the fear. Get in touch with how you FEEL about the things you think.
Then share them.
You will be amazed at the power this has to connect you to others.
Michelle
A reason that I’ve not shared feelings is because I’ve seen how others were responded to when they shared their feelings, and that kept me from putting myself out there. And you’re right – it’s made me feel even further disconnected and have regrets about trying to play the strong card, instead of being real.
FANTASTIC BLOG MICHELLE!!!
I find that when I’m in groups that I am comfortable with, I’m honest and business results turn out far better. Meetings run smoother, people enjoy being in the meetings and people participate by sharing ideas openly.
This blog will help me become focused on being transparent in meetings with people I’m not overly comfortable with and should help drive better results.
Thanks for the insight!!!
Adrian
Michelle, You are off to a great start … Thanks for being such a positive influence for all of us!
Jen
I think we all do this both professionaly and personally. Honestly the main reason I don’t share all my feelings is because of the fear of rocking the boat. It’s safer to go with the rest of the group and not be the odd man out. I’ve found that for the most part unless it’s something I truly am passionate about it’s really not worth the fight but give me time to examine and consider what is best for my team or my family I’ll share all my feelings, whether they be considered safe or not.
Thanks for the blog…I think it’s a great way to share what others think about this!!!
This is one of the best lessons I have learned from YOU Michelle. I actually held back what I felt because I was concerned with hurting others feelings or leaving people out. If I am truly expressing what I feel then the people getting feedback or listening to me know that I am being genuine, and they get so much more out of what I have to say to them.
THANKS Michelle – always such a positive influence!
Michelle, great info and thanks for sharing with everyone! I think it’s so important to share your thoughts regardless of fear of what people will think. As long as it’s done constructively and through positive means. Be assertive, not agressive. Be proactive and not reactive and you will for sure have better results. You are such a great influence on so many!
I could not agree with you more.. Congrats on your first blog. I look foward to more!!